Healthy

Here’s a truth: staying healthy doesn’t have to mean dramatic overhauls or hours at the gym. Often, it’s the small, sustainable shifts that create the biggest impact—keeping healthy snacks on hand, drinking more water, choosing movement you actually enjoy, or simply pausing to take three deep breaths before your next client call. 

These aren’t “extras”; they’re fuel for showing up as the best version of ourselves in every role we play.

So here’s my encouragement: instead of waiting for the perfect time to get healthy (spoiler: it doesn’t exist), choose one small change you can start with this week. Think of it as investing in your future self—the one who has more energy, more clarity, and more joy to pour into her family, her firm, and her life.

With you on this journey,

Vision as a filter.

 

If your vision is clear, it will do two things for you: It’ll attract the right people, and push out the wrong ones.

That’s not rejection. That’s alignment.

Most people don’t fail because they have no vision. They fail because they don’t protect it.

When you know who you are and where you’re going, not everyone is supposed to come with you. That’s what real growth looks like.

It’s not easy, but it’s necessary. Because every time you choose clarity over confusion, your business gets sharper, your life gets lighter, and your circle gets stronger.

When you walk with dreamers — you learn to dream bigger.

One day, a billionaire was saying goodbye to his longtime secretary as she retired. Wanting to thank her for years of loyalty, he decided to give her a few million dollars so she’d never have to worry about money again.

To his surprise, the secretary shook her head and said,

“Why would you do that? I already have a few billion of my own.”

Completely stunned, the billionaire replied,

“But… how? You’ve only ever made five or six thousand dollars a month. How could you possibly save that much?”

She smiled and said,

“All those years, I sat in on your meetings. When you were on the phone buying land or stocks, I quietly did the same — just on a smaller scale. I copied your moves. So when you made millions, I made hundreds of thousands. And when you made billions, I made millions.” 💰✨

💡 Life lesson:

Who you surround yourself with matters. There are people who drain your energy… and people who lift you higher.

Bees always lead you to flowers.

Surround yourself with people who inspire growth, not negativity.

When you walk with smart people — you grow wiser.

When you walk with driven people — you start aiming higher.

When you walk with dreamers — you learn to dream bigger.

But if you spend your time with those who complain, who have no dreams, no goals, they’ll only pull you down.

👉 Choose your circle wisely.

👉 Build the kind of environment that fuels your growth.

👉 And be that positive force for the people around you.

A friend sent me this...

My grandma passed away about a week and a half ago.

She was 108 years old.

If you’ve followed my writing or my work for any amount of time, you probably know how important she was to me. She wasn’t just my grandma,  she was a reference point. A compass. Someone I quietly measured myself against in the best way.

She lived through the Great Depression and World War II before she was even 30.

Because of that, she knew real hardship. Not the abstract kind-  the kind that reshapes how you see the world. And yet, what always struck me was how much joy she carried. Not forced optimism or denial. Just a steady, grounded ability to move through life with lightness even when things were heavy.

When she was 70, she lost her son and she cared for him the months before as he was dying. As a parent, I can’t even begin to imagine that kind of pain. And while I know she grieved deeply, she didn’t let that loss harden her. She didn’t avoid it either. She did the work. She showed up. And then she kept moving forward and  not coldly, but with a quiet understanding that this is what love sometimes requires.

That posture- strength without bitterness, grief without collapse- is something I’ve carried with me my entire life.

She was also endlessly resourceful.

She didn’t wait to be “qualified” to try things. She learned to paint in her forties and created stunning pastels and oil paintings that still hang in our family’s homes. She refinished furniture that is now treasured and fought over. She made placemats by hand that rival anything you could buy in a store.

She would see something and simply think, I could do that.
And then she would.

There was no self-doubt masquerading as realism. No waiting for permission. Just a belief in her own ability to figure things out.

And maybe most importantly, she was a true matriarch.

She didn’t wait to be invited into her relationships. She initiated. She called. She planned lunches. She brought people together. Even into her hundreds, until her dementia became more challenging around 105, she was still actively choosing connection.

Because of that, she had deep, meaningful relationships with her three remaining sons, her ten grandchildren, and her twenty-one great-grandchildren.

She didn’t leave closeness to chance.

Something else I’ve been sitting with since she passed: I’ve never cared much about my own legacy in the traditional sense. I don’t care if my name is remembered long after I’m gone. That hasn’t changed.

What has become very clear to me is how deeply I care about carrying her legacy forward.

Her resilience.
Her joy.
Her resourcefulness.
Her willingness to initiate love and connection.

Since she’s been gone, I feel a quiet but strong sense of responsibility,  not to preserve her name, but to live in a way that honors who she was.

That feels like the truest form of legacy there is.

Thanks for letting me share this with you today. 

5 things life has taught me.

1. If you think there might be demand for a product or service, then what's the harm in trying?

2. Done is better than perfect

3. You are more of an expert than you think

4. More people have the same questions than you think

5. Community matters

Have a safe space free from judgment or ridicule. The more we know the people in our community, the more we respond with kindness and grace when answering questions. And the more we can be vulnerable and ask the questions we're afraid to raise elsewhere. There's no silly questions.

The moments that almost break you… and how they build you.

 

When a friend was 25, his business looked great from the outside. Inside, it was a complete disaster. Jobs falling apart. Banks calling nonstop. People telling him to quit.

There were nights he sat in a freezing car wondering if this whole thing was a mistake.

But he didn’t quit.

And I’m glad he didn’t, because those were the exact moments that made him who he is today.

The truth is, success doesn’t come from comfort. It comes from pressure. It comes from staying in the game when most people tap out.

That’s how you get sharp. That’s how you get better. That’s how you build something that lasts.

A New Clue to Why Heart Attacks Are Less Severe at Night

It’s been known for some time that myocardial infarctions, or heart attacks, tend to be more severe in the morning than they are at nighttime. Daily fluctuations in stress hormones and blood pressure are well documented and point to the important role circadian rhythm plays in cardiovascular health. But those aren’t the only factors.

Immune responses also follow the body’s natural biological clock. Research has shown that neutrophils—the most common type of white blood cell—often cause more damage to tissues at the site of inflammatory injuries, such as heart attacks, during the day than at night.

Neutrophils have been referred to by cardioimmunology experts as first responders for the speed at which they arrive to a trauma, but they’ve also been labeled as foot soldiers and demolition crews based on the havoc they wreak in the process of fighting off potential infections.

“They’re the first sentinel, but they come fully loaded,” said Douglas Mann, MD, the Ada L. Steininger Professor of Cardiology and professor of medicine, cell biology, and physiology at Washington University School of Medicine in St Louis. “They’re shooting at everything and dumping a lot of toxic granules on the environment. They are indiscriminate in terms of their ability to destroy, and they take out healthy cells in the process.”

Scientists have explored the connection between neutrophils and the severity of daytime heart attacks, but now, a new study may provide a novel clue into not just why neutrophils are diurnally aggressive but how, with some tweaks to their internal clocks, they may be modified to do less damage during noninfectious “sterile inflammation” while still eliminating pathogens.

What the researchers were able to show, Mann said, was a way “to train the foot soldiers” and minimize their collateral damage. “That’s a very big deal,” he said.